- Opening the Door from Inside
"I am so impressed with this book. There is a balance of professional wisdom drawn from research, life and counselling experience, and an empathy that will ensure women feel respected and understood. I’m not sure that anyone else has confirmed how extraordinarily difficult it is to extricate oneself from an abusive relationship in such a way.
This book is excellently laid out and very helpful in its movement from general, important concepts to detailed and practical advice. The diagrams are clear, relevant and well positioned and I love the quotes above each chapter. I think the footnotes are there without being intrusive and give a choice to the reader by modelling the message that a woman can get to the stage of making choices.
The author is not anti men per se—and this matters. She points out that some counselling isn’t helpful (true!) and is realistic about the limitations of what shelters can offer. I think that her self-revelation is timely; it adds to the professionalism through its restraint and relevance.
This is the fruition of knowledge gained through the author’s life and work. It is both wise and practical."
Margaret Hill – October 31, 2016
This might end up being an extraordinary book for women (and men) who are struggling as victims to recognise and understand how they’ve become so stuck in patterns of ongoing abuse/violence perpetrated by their partners. It might also be very helpful for family members and friends of both victims and perpetrators who may be concerned about suspected domestic violence but don’t know how to help; and for professionals who work with victims and/or perpetrators and are looking to increase their understanding of domestic violence. It might even end up being an an extraordinary resource for some perpetrators: those who have some capacity to empathise with their partners and are deeply disturbed and ashamed about their ongoing abusive behaviours yet have no idea of the corrosive effects of the abuse on their partners nor the insidiousness of the cycle of violence that has become established within their relationships.
The book demonstrates the author’s deep understanding of, and empathy with, the victims of domestic violence. It provides meaningful insights into the dynamics underlying abusive relationships, including the way victims become entrapped, isolated and disempowered as a result of the abuse. It also provides tools to enable victims to assess their particular situations very carefully, and undertake thoughtful strategic interventions that will maximise their safety while working out the best way forward for them.
It is, in my view, a well informed and respectful resource that I think will provide practical assistance to those directly involved in abusive relationships and also those working to confront and deal with the domestic violence they identify amongst their family/friends/clients.
Judy Leitch – November 7, 2016
I was drawn to this book as a professional working in the marital therapy field. The book offers a clear pathway to women seeking to; understand, to leave, or to make changes in their abusive relationships.
The author takes the reader on a no-nonsense narrative through her own personal and professional experience with domestic violence.
The author also helps the reader to identify if her partner is a psychopathic abuser and outlines the inherent dangers that they face with these dangerous perpetrators. The comprehensive explanation on the cycle of violence that is outlined in the book has the potential to save lives.
However the most compelling aspect of the book is how it sensitively documents the process of women getting stuck in abusive relationships. The author helps women to understand the processes at play and how they can start to safely and slowly disentangle themselves from the manipulation and abuse.
I highly recommend this book to both professionals and victims of domestic violence.
Dr. Monique Cohenka – October 25, 2017
Thank you for your book, I am sure there will be so many people who will finally have some validation. Your book gave me so much validation, more than what I got in Adelaide when I paid for a top therapist which cost me 375.00 per session. He told us we should separate. Abuse needs to stop and therapists need to be more up to date.
Tania Thompson – January 3rd, 2018
Opening the Door from Inside is a recommended resource for individuals, friends and family affected by domestic violence, in addition to professionals who would like to increase their skills and knowledge. The book is practical and clearly presented. The author's personal experience provides valuable knowledge and insight. Robin Parry explores the reasons why women enter into, and remain in, violent relationships with empathy and understanding.